I know he doesn’t mean to hurt me, it’s a protection mechanism, but it still has a deep impact on me. He is so lucky to have someone like you in his life – you see more than you realize – I think it is that you just don’t know what to do with it….. I strongly suggest that you read through Kathy’s articles and read through the blog posts….people share so much about what they are going through and it will teach you a lot about his perspective of situations….. Although he is extremely intelligent, creative, funny, and one of the hardest-working people I have ever met, he can be VERY cutting and very cruel almost in an attempt to repel others. We have select few friends and often I am hesitant to introduce him to new people if they are not individuals he has invited out with us himself. There is also a lot of difficulty in our sex life and though it has always been there, it is not getting easier.
How to Live with Someone with Dissociative Identity Disorder
She is like naw I dont feel like it but I can still pleasure you another way. I tell her no its ok, I just wanted the intimacy/love and mental connection that we enjoy. The next morning she blows up and says to me “I need help and if you cant help me we have a problem.” I ask her what I need to do or what can I do.
But now after the years of being treated like a worthless animal and being destitute and friendless, I also don’t feel like I will ever recover and don’t even know how to start! I would encourage you to stay in therapy only because talking is much healthier than not. I hope one day I can help the world understand just how much we have gone through.
Can alters date each other?
So first things first, start to educate yourself which is what you’re already doing and that’s great! Even though you dont have the disorder educating yourself about it is the fastest way to end fear of it. There are plenty of resources online and I encourage you to start looking into them. It helps to understand what exactly is happening when your loved one switches and why. Learn the terminology and what everything means. I have been married for 27 years to my husband who has Dissociative Identity Disorder [“DID”].
It might be advisable if you continue to educate yourself on the disorder. HealthyPlace has great resources that can answer your questions. I might also seek counseling if I were you in order to learn how to cope with the feelings your husband’s DID has brought up. I have been with my husband 15 yrs he has always been a lot to handle but I always assumed he was just a bad guy and I was a mug for staying with him. 2.5yrs a go he had a breakdown and since then he has been diagnosed with DID, I still don’t fully understand alot about it but I am left with the nasty taste of all the lying and deceit over the yrs.
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But when the person you’re seeing can’t make like Elsa and just let it go, they probably aren’t over their ex, which means it might be time to have a conversation. After all, they’ll never be able to open themselves to you if they’re still caught up in the drama of a past love. But does it really matter if your partner isn’t over their ex before they start dating you? Sex and intimacy coach Irene Fehr tells Elite Daily that it does.
My partner had a breakdown today and it was the first time I experienced his alter. He was in a full panic attack and I was able to help bring him back onlinedatingcritic into focus. A knows who I am, but was unable to fully communicate because of the panic attack. I’m just so glad I didn’t add any stress to him or A.
They had said that they were the last two personalities left. I was a judgement free place for them to communicate about the others and their feelings and it seems they appreciated it. But they never told me about this 3rd one.
It may be hard to let your spouse go for a few months, but it is important for recovery from DID. DID and other dissociative conditions are almost always caused by trauma. If your spouse is struggling with DID, they may be using it to cope with the experience of past trauma and as a defense mechanism against difficult memories.
If this happens, that person’s body strenght may even become a lot higher than usual. This alter is also relly good using the body, so normally isn’t bothered by pain and can be unexpectedly agile and fast. If you’re not the cause of their anger, try to make everyone stay away from the person in this state, and, only if you’re sure you can, try to stop him until he calms down. This way you will protect both other people and the DID person as well, but know that you’re risking yourslef by doing this.
A had to realize that it wasn’t my girl who did that. Try to be strong, it’s not easy maki g it work. I am a 50 y/o man whose 2nd wife was AMAZING…
From time to time, some alters may act just like this one, especially before you know about them. Pay a lot of attention on any changes you see (personality, expression, voice, likes/dislikes) to know when someone else is out. This will most surely be the one you are in a relationship with. Yes, people with DID can have healthy relationships. In fact, having supportive and healthy relationships is one of the key ingredients for successful recovery from dissociative disorders. This alter he can be very manipulative and when he comes out criticizes how weak my partner is.